Once the main schemas have been identified, a biographical review is essential. It can be done alone or with the help of a therapist. It aims to better understand the origins of these schemas in order to better modify them later on.
It is still preferable to be accompanied during this period, which can provoke strong and painful emotions that will need to be addressed…
Review your biography, but also those of your parents, as very often family schemas are repeated.
Try to identify what basic needs were not met in your childhood: did you feel safe, loved, wanted? Did you feel like you belonged with your siblings? Were you encouraged? These are all answers that will help you to better understand your adult functioning.
It is also important to become aware of how your schemas influence your life, this will help motivate you to change!
Observe the different areas of your life: professional, private, leisure… Your schemas condition your way of seeing the world and will therefore have an impact on all areas of your life and your environment! Once you have become a spectator of your past pathogenic functioning, you have become aware of it and you can therefore better anticipate your \“bad\” reactions!